Happy Year of the Rabbit


My brother and I at Ko Shing Rice Shoppe's Grand Opening, circa 1977

Growing up, all roads led to Chinatown.

My family went into “the city” a lot. That is what Manhattan  is called, even if you lived in one of New York City’s outer boroughs, as we did.   We could be uptown at the Museum of Natural History, at Madison Square Garden catching the Ringling Bros. & Barnum & Bailey Circus or the Ice Capades, or schmoozing on the Lower East Side. But when we got hungry, we ended our day in the city in Chinatown.

And most of the time, we ate at the same restaurant: The Ko Shing Rice Shoppe.

The Ko Shing Rice Shoppe was located right across the street from the brand-new Confucius Tower apartment buildings.  Its dining room was sparsely decorated with wood panels and mirrored walls and plain tables and chairs. It was not a tourist spot so it did not have the usual Chinese kitsch of gongs, pagoda-sloped ceilings or dragon tapestries on the walls.

What it had was great food.

My grandfather knew the owner from many years before.  He worked nights at the New York Daily News  for over 50 years.  His lunch break was around 3:00 a.m.  Over the years, he became a regular at one of these all-night Chinese kitchens that operated out of a midtown basement. There, he met Lee.   One day, or night, Lee said he was opening up his own restaurant in Chinatown and wanted my grandfather’s whole family to be there for the celebration.

That is where the above picture is from. I was about nine, so my brother was only five. We were the only non-Asian family there among the celebrants, and we were treated to plate after plate of chicken & cashews, crab, bowls of winter melon soup and other delicacies.

From that age on, until my 20’s that was the restaurant of my family’s choice, above Italian food, above Kosher Deli, it was Chinese food that was our exotic cuisine of preference.  Chinese food is as inextricably linked to my identity as Matzah Ball soup and gifelte fish.

So, on day outings to the city, we would get there at an odd hour: 3:30 or 4 o clock.  The restaurant would be all but empty except for our family: my parents and my brother, my grandparents, and friends who would meet us there, locally and from out-of-town.

In the back at a huge round table, the cook staff would be chopping mountains of Bok Choy and broccoli in advance of the evening rush.  My grandfather would take us into the kitchen to say hi to Lee and the chefs. Then we would order, my grandfather would order for the whole family not bothering to even look at the menu. He would just ask Lee to make us a dish of this and a plate of that, always with extra ginger and garlic at my grandmother’s request.

If the waiters had time, they would patiently instruct my brother and I how to use chopsticks. We would have to eventually abandon our practice and resign to use our forks when my mom and grandmother said we were taking too long in our attempts to pick up every individual grain of rice.

After dinner, it was still early in the evening. No matter the weather, summer or winter, we would walk through the narrow streets of the heart of Chinatown. And before vegetarianism or veganism was hip, my grandmother was the first person to introduce me to tofu. After dinner, she would have to make a stop at the Tofu factory to bring some home.

The Ko Shing Rice Shoppe was a place where we held our family birthday parties. My mom’s 40th. My grandfather’s 65th.  I even found myself there with my grandfather after the funeral of my paternal grandmother, with whom I did not have a relationship.

But on the ride home, seeing that I was a bit glum, my grandpa found our way somehow from the funeral home in Westchester to the Ko Shing Rice Shoppe. We talked over the events of the day over steaming cups of tea and a dish of beef lo mein.

I don’t know if the Ko Shing Rice Shoppe still exists. I went back to Chinatown on a recent visit but didn’t have the heart to walk the street where it was, in case it was boarded up  or another restaurant had taken its place.

In young adulthood, visits to another Chinatown – this time in San Francisco – were a highlight of my newlywed life when my husband and I lived in Berkeley, Calif.  We ate at San Francisco’s famous house of NanKing, where lines would snake around the corner during the Chinese New Year to sit in a crammed dining room and feast on sizzling plates of vegetables drenched in the most incredible hoisin sauce I have ever tasted. In the evening, we squeezed into the crowds for a view of the parade, complete with Chinese Dragon dances, drumming bands, and marshall arts demonstrations.

Now I live in a town without a Chinatown. But there are still some good family owned Chinese restaurants in Rochester, like Golden Dynasty and Chen’s. My diet has changed from consuming everything to only sticking to vegetarian items. But still, on Chinese New years, my children delight in the traditions of getting a dollar in an envelope and opening up fortunes.

Have a great New Year!

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About stacylynngittleman

I have been a public relations professional and reporter -- and always thought I would live in the New York Metro area - before my husband took a job in Rochester, New York. Most in Metro New York can't find Rochester on a map,and neither could I before we moved. I am now a columnist and a freelance writer for Rochester's only daily newspaper, the Democrat & Chronicle. I also am passionate about gardening, fitness and most of all, Jewish education and Israel Advocacy. Here's my perspective on Western New York living - the good, the bad, and the snowy.

9 responses to “Happy Year of the Rabbit”

  1. Rhonda says :

    Thanks for bringing back happy memories of dinners there with our families. I still miss their winter melon soup!

    I remember one of those trips to Ko Shing when I was still very young–maybe the age you are in the picture. As we walked through the front of the restaurant to our table, I remember seeing diners slurping bowls of snails. I tried not to stare, but I had never seen anything so exotic!

    After those dinners Grandma would always stop in at a produce stand and get a bag of candied ginger to take home. Really hot candied ginger, or so it seemed to me. She’d give me a tiny piece to nibble on the subway and my mouth would burn all the way back to Stillwell Avenue. That’s one of the sad things about growing up… now that I can appreciate candied ginger hot enough to set my mouth on fire, it doesn’t have that effect anymore….

    Gung Hay Fat Choy!

    • transplantednorth says :

      Hey there cuz!

      I was hoping that family members would chime in with their Ko Shing memories! Yes, my grandmother also LOVED candied ginger, and I ate it a LOT and helped me through all my pregnancies. Such great memories there. I remember when all my brother would eat there was the rice! We are so lucky to have those memories. Our kids sure are missing out!

      • transplantednorth says :

        By the way, cuz, shortly before this picture was taken, I was riding in the car in Manhattan to the restaurant in your grandparent’s car. With all the stop and go traffic, I got carsick and I threw up I think in your grandfather’s lap! What great memories!

  2. Rhonda says :

    Oh, man, I really miss our grandparents right now. What great folks they were. And I’m so glad that you shared your memory of your grandpa being there for you that afternoon when you were feeling down.

    I like to think that somewhere up there they are having a heck of a Chinese dinner tonight. I think I will make some candied ginger this afternoon in their honor. (If you make it fresh at home it really is a lot hotter…)

  3. timkeen40 says :

    What a great post about your life! Thanks so much for sharing that with all of us.

    http://timkeen40.wordpress.com

  4. MOM says :

    Your family blogs always tug at my heart. Gramdma’s birthday was a few days ago. And it was always celebrated at a Chinese restaurant( many family celebrations revolved around eating chinese food). After a winter in Florida. they would consider being “home” when they stopped in Chinatown to eat. Thanks for another memory

  5. Allie Lee Goldstein says :

    My name is Allie Lee Goldstein. My dad was one of the 8 owners of Ko Shing. I was six when they opened it in 1976. Thank you so much for sharing your memories. I’m so happy you had so many wonderful memories of a place that was so dear to my heart. Like your family, we celebrated EVERYTHING there. My favorite was the soy sauce chicken. My dad would make dozens each week.
    He ran the kitchen in the basement, in charge of the side work that needed to be done before the chefs upstairs created their magical dishes.

    • stacylynngittleman says :

      wow, that is incredible!!! Who was your dad? My grandfather knew Lee and Juan. My favorite was the shrimp and cashews, when I was a kid. Before I gave up eating shellfish. Your last name is Goldstein? When did Ko Shing close? This is so incredible!

      • Allie Lee Goldstein says :

        My dad is Yee You Lee. There were 3 Lees I believe. They were all like uncles to me, so I never called them by last names. It’s been over 20 years since the restaurant closed. I think it was either 1990 or 1991. I also think that picture was from the summer of 1976. I was six at the time. I just remembered my dad and his friends didn’t have a day off for about a year. I know it was not in 1977 because we saved up enough money by August of 1977 to buy a house. I’m a Goldstein by marriage.
        I was looking for something for my son’s field trip today into Chinatown. It’s so cool I came upon your little blog. I just wanted my son to walk by if he had time.

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